In a world of text messages, Instant Messaging and email, what will stand out?
What about a handwritten note? I bet you this will stand out.
Sending a handwritten letter to your ex is much more emotional and personal than about 4 screens of text messages.
You want to get his/her attention, right? Yet you don't want to give the impression of being pushy or desperate. You need to create a reason for your ex to pursue you! One of the most powerful things you can do to create a vacuum and get your ex to come looking for you, is to actually agree with a break up in a handwritten note.
But, BE CAREFUL! What you say in the note and how you say it, can have either positive or negative effects. So be prepared! For an outline of what to put in your note watch the video at
Your relationship doesn't have to be over. Practical advice to save your relationship.
Wednesday, July 27, 2011
Wednesday, July 20, 2011
Problems With a Cheating Spouse? Learn How To Save Your Relationship!
I just did an experiment! I just took the word "cheating", and entered it into GOOGLE.
Guess what! 301,000,000 results!! Can you believe it? Maybe some of these searches were in other contexts, besides cheating in a relationship, but a quick scan just on the first page was all relationship orientated!
Wow!!! Scary stuff! But what can we do to prevent this? Did your partner ever cheat on you? Do you currently suspect your husband of cheating on you? Why does it happen? How can this ever happen to me?
Have you ever thought that you might end up a victim, being cheated on? What can can you do to prevent this from happening to you?
First of all, I want to clear up some basic myths. The first thing many spouses do (especially women), is to go on a guilt trip! The first response is normally extreme anger. then comes the guilt. " I am over weight...." "My waste is to big...." I'm this, I'm that.....etc. etc.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you don't need to look after yourself! By all means, keep fit, stay healthy! After all it is good for your health to start off with! Secondly, a healthy person (normally) is more fun be around. But ladies, that might not be the primary cause of your better half cheating on you!
True love is not about looks. (And everybody can't be a model either.) It goes much deeper than that!
When last did you make him feel special? When last did you make him feel like he is your hero? Do you show any interest in his work? Remember, there will always be somebody out there, ready to take him away from you!
Unfortunately, this is a male thing. Men have a need of being in charge. They want to feel admired. He wants to be the strong one for his lady. He wants her to be impressed with his work. In short, when a man loves a women, he wants to be her hero!
Now you may take it for granted that he should know you feel this way. The problem however, is that after time, the spark fades away. We start taking each other for granted. This is dangerous!
This opens the door. If some sly little lady pitches at work, show some appreciation, make him feel important, tell him how good he is.....Problems!!
He craves this attention. He feels exited! He feels special! If he doesn't get this recognition at home, he is now getting it! But at the wrong place.
Put the spark back in your relationship. Tell him (and show him) how you feel about him. Don't take your relationship for granted. Never!
Gentleman, this cuts both ways!! you need to do the same for your lady!! Show that you appreciate each other. It goes deeper than physical looks. When your partner feels appreciated and admired, you are "covering" your partner with Armour that no outsider will be able to penetrate.
If you have problems with a cheating spouse, care enough to do whatever is necessary to save your relationship
Take action, and click on the above links to get proper support and guidance from an expert on how to handle your situation.
Guess what! 301,000,000 results!! Can you believe it? Maybe some of these searches were in other contexts, besides cheating in a relationship, but a quick scan just on the first page was all relationship orientated!
Wow!!! Scary stuff! But what can we do to prevent this? Did your partner ever cheat on you? Do you currently suspect your husband of cheating on you? Why does it happen? How can this ever happen to me?
Have you ever thought that you might end up a victim, being cheated on? What can can you do to prevent this from happening to you?
First of all, I want to clear up some basic myths. The first thing many spouses do (especially women), is to go on a guilt trip! The first response is normally extreme anger. then comes the guilt. " I am over weight...." "My waste is to big...." I'm this, I'm that.....etc. etc.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you don't need to look after yourself! By all means, keep fit, stay healthy! After all it is good for your health to start off with! Secondly, a healthy person (normally) is more fun be around. But ladies, that might not be the primary cause of your better half cheating on you!
True love is not about looks. (And everybody can't be a model either.) It goes much deeper than that!
When last did you make him feel special? When last did you make him feel like he is your hero? Do you show any interest in his work? Remember, there will always be somebody out there, ready to take him away from you!
Unfortunately, this is a male thing. Men have a need of being in charge. They want to feel admired. He wants to be the strong one for his lady. He wants her to be impressed with his work. In short, when a man loves a women, he wants to be her hero!
Now you may take it for granted that he should know you feel this way. The problem however, is that after time, the spark fades away. We start taking each other for granted. This is dangerous!
This opens the door. If some sly little lady pitches at work, show some appreciation, make him feel important, tell him how good he is.....Problems!!
He craves this attention. He feels exited! He feels special! If he doesn't get this recognition at home, he is now getting it! But at the wrong place.
Put the spark back in your relationship. Tell him (and show him) how you feel about him. Don't take your relationship for granted. Never!
Gentleman, this cuts both ways!! you need to do the same for your lady!! Show that you appreciate each other. It goes deeper than physical looks. When your partner feels appreciated and admired, you are "covering" your partner with Armour that no outsider will be able to penetrate.
If you have problems with a cheating spouse, care enough to do whatever is necessary to save your relationship
Take action, and click on the above links to get proper support and guidance from an expert on how to handle your situation.
Thursday, July 14, 2011
Get Your Ex Back - By Avoiding Premature Reconciliation
If you are just coming out of a painful breakup of a perfect relationship, it is clear that it wasn't so perfect after all.!
One of the first pitfalls to look out for, is premature reconciliation.You need to keep your emotions under control! I know this can be a tall order, but if you want success in your relationship, you have to do it.
First of all, do not bombard your ex with attempts to make contact. This will only cause more harm! Take time to calm down. Find activities to keep your mind occupied. Go out with friends, learn a new hobby, go to gym..... there are so many things you can do. This will enable you to clear your mind, and when you can think straight again, you might see the situation in a whole new perspective!
Even if your ex makes contact with you first, if your emotions are not under control, it is dangerous! Try to avoid contact. Rather let them leave a message.
Once you are in control of yourself, and feel ready to make contact, you still need to be cautious. Keep your conversation short, but friendly. Maybe have a cup of coffee together, but limit it to 20 - 30 minutes. It is easy to fall in the trap of just thinking you can pick up where left off.
With the first sign of your ex indicating that he/she is willing to pick up the pieces, it is so easy to get all emotional about it! You don't want to resist. You think everything is a okay!! You only think about getting your ex back!
Wrong!!! Remember why you broke up in the first place! Communicate! You need to talk about it. Stay calm, and rather make a suggestion such as:.."Let us take it slow, and see where it leads us to..." You need to go through a process. Discuss what happened and start building the relationship from scratch. Talk about things that irritated both of you. You cannot fix a problem, unless you discover the cause. Jumping back into an emotional relationship, getting intimate to soon, is not going to solve the problem. You just might end up not hearing from your ex again!
Stay in control. This will leave a much better impression as well. You are not on some wild emotional "roller coaster ride". Hey, we all admire strong people. People with self control. Show that you are serious about the relationship, and you want to make it work.
I know all this is much easier said than done, which is why I am not going to leave you in the middle of no where. You need help from an expert. Visit the link below, and get the help you need. I promise, you will not regret it!
One of the first pitfalls to look out for, is premature reconciliation.You need to keep your emotions under control! I know this can be a tall order, but if you want success in your relationship, you have to do it.
First of all, do not bombard your ex with attempts to make contact. This will only cause more harm! Take time to calm down. Find activities to keep your mind occupied. Go out with friends, learn a new hobby, go to gym..... there are so many things you can do. This will enable you to clear your mind, and when you can think straight again, you might see the situation in a whole new perspective!
Even if your ex makes contact with you first, if your emotions are not under control, it is dangerous! Try to avoid contact. Rather let them leave a message.
Once you are in control of yourself, and feel ready to make contact, you still need to be cautious. Keep your conversation short, but friendly. Maybe have a cup of coffee together, but limit it to 20 - 30 minutes. It is easy to fall in the trap of just thinking you can pick up where left off.
With the first sign of your ex indicating that he/she is willing to pick up the pieces, it is so easy to get all emotional about it! You don't want to resist. You think everything is a okay!! You only think about getting your ex back!
Wrong!!! Remember why you broke up in the first place! Communicate! You need to talk about it. Stay calm, and rather make a suggestion such as:.."Let us take it slow, and see where it leads us to..." You need to go through a process. Discuss what happened and start building the relationship from scratch. Talk about things that irritated both of you. You cannot fix a problem, unless you discover the cause. Jumping back into an emotional relationship, getting intimate to soon, is not going to solve the problem. You just might end up not hearing from your ex again!
Stay in control. This will leave a much better impression as well. You are not on some wild emotional "roller coaster ride". Hey, we all admire strong people. People with self control. Show that you are serious about the relationship, and you want to make it work.
I know all this is much easier said than done, which is why I am not going to leave you in the middle of no where. You need help from an expert. Visit the link below, and get the help you need. I promise, you will not regret it!
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