I just did an experiment! I just took the word "cheating", and entered it into GOOGLE.
Guess what! 301,000,000 results!! Can you believe it? Maybe some of these searches were in other contexts, besides cheating in a relationship, but a quick scan just on the first page was all relationship orientated!
Wow!!! Scary stuff! But what can we do to prevent this? Did your partner ever cheat on you? Do you currently suspect your husband of cheating on you? Why does it happen? How can this ever happen to me?
Have you ever thought that you might end up a victim, being cheated on? What can can you do to prevent this from happening to you?
First of all, I want to clear up some basic myths. The first thing many spouses do (especially women), is to go on a guilt trip! The first response is normally extreme anger. then comes the guilt. " I am over weight...." "My waste is to big...." I'm this, I'm that.....etc. etc.
Now don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you don't need to look after yourself! By all means, keep fit, stay healthy! After all it is good for your health to start off with! Secondly, a healthy person (normally) is more fun be around. But ladies, that might not be the primary cause of your better half cheating on you!
True love is not about looks. (And everybody can't be a model either.) It goes much deeper than that!
When last did you make him feel special? When last did you make him feel like he is your hero? Do you show any interest in his work? Remember, there will always be somebody out there, ready to take him away from you!
Unfortunately, this is a male thing. Men have a need of being in charge. They want to feel admired. He wants to be the strong one for his lady. He wants her to be impressed with his work. In short, when a man loves a women, he wants to be her hero!
Now you may take it for granted that he should know you feel this way. The problem however, is that after time, the spark fades away. We start taking each other for granted. This is dangerous!
This opens the door. If some sly little lady pitches at work, show some appreciation, make him feel important, tell him how good he is.....Problems!!
He craves this attention. He feels exited! He feels special! If he doesn't get this recognition at home, he is now getting it! But at the wrong place.
Put the spark back in your relationship. Tell him (and show him) how you feel about him. Don't take your relationship for granted. Never!
Gentleman, this cuts both ways!! you need to do the same for your lady!! Show that you appreciate each other. It goes deeper than physical looks. When your partner feels appreciated and admired, you are "covering" your partner with Armour that no outsider will be able to penetrate.
If you have problems with a cheating spouse, care enough to do whatever is necessary to save your relationship
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